<James Blake - Retrograde>
This man drives me crazy!! I am going to quit.
My boss. He tells me to do something a certain way and then he makes me look silly by telling me that I am doing it wrong. Yesterday, he even copied the department manager into a condescending email to me!
Wow, that is a challenge. What have you tried so far?
I tried talking to him, but he somehow always manages to twist my words around. No matter the situation, things never seem to be his fault. It’s so unfair. No one in our department likes him but I am the youngest and an easy victim I guess.
So he is not seeing an issue and he is not hearing that you feel mistreated. What would you like to have happen?
Well...that he stops. But that is not likely as you said, he is not recognizing what’s wrong.
True. So what other options are there?
Hm. He won’t change. The only two options are either I stay or I go.
And what option would you prefer?
I want to stay. I love my job, I love my colleagues, I love my clients, I get paid well and it is close to where I live. There aren’t too many positions like this in this town.
What would you need if you stay?
Ha. A gun. Just kidding. I would need a thicker skin, like an armour. Something bulletproof where I can not feel his attacks. Or a clever way to expose his unfair behaviour.
There you go - we have some great things we can work with. First, your mindset - a resilient, zen like status, where any attacks of him just roll off like water on a duck's back. Second, a way to make your status clear and show him where he oversteps boundaries. Great work. Let’s work out those two in more detail...