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#7 Chelsea

<Fly my pretties - Mud & Stardust>

It feels like yesterday that I gave birth to my little girl. My husband and I, we both have this mix of pride and fear when we look at her. We just taught her to tie her shoes ... can you believe she starts driving lessons now?

Everything changes. Isn't it beautiful?

Yes, it is. *sighs* But, how can I guide her? How can I be the parent she needs? I just want her to be happy.

What does she need to be happy?

What do you mean?

Well, how well do you know her? What do you know about her passions and her dreams?

I don't know for sure. She likes music and reading. She is a little introvert, goes to violin practice and ballet. She gets on with everyone at school but she has only 2 very close friends. They keep the kids so busy at school with homework, exams, after school activities. I don't think they really teach them to find their passions. Heck, I don't even know mine! *laughs*

Good careers are pretty much adult versions of the things we enjoyed most as a child. It can be very helpful to take a trip down memory lane and extract the main qualities. As a parent, you can lead by example. What are the moments that make you feel truly alive now? How do they relate to the things you loved when you were young?

I see. Let me think...what comes to my mind....there was this one time, when I was 5, and I spent weeks doing...

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#6 Becks

<James Blake - Retrograde>

This man drives me crazy!! I am going to quit.

What happened?

My boss. He tells me to do something a certain way and then he makes me look silly by telling me that I am doing it wrong. Yesterday, he even copied the department manager into a condescending email to me!

Wow, that is a challenge. What have you tried so far?

I tried talking to him, but he somehow always manages to twist my words around. No matter the situation, things never seem to be his fault. It’s so unfair. No one in our department likes him but I am the youngest and an easy victim I guess.

So he is not seeing an issue and he is not hearing that you feel mistreated. What would you like to have happen?

Well...that he stops. But that is not likely as you said, he is not recognizing what’s wrong.

True. So what other options are there?

Hm. He won’t change. The only two options are either I stay or I go.

And what option would you prefer?

I want to stay. I love my job, I love my colleagues, I love my clients, I get paid well and it is close to where I live. There aren’t too many positions like this in this town.

What would you need if you stay?

Ha. A gun. Just kidding. I would need a thicker skin, like an armour. Something bulletproof where I can not feel his attacks. Or a clever way to expose his unfair behaviour.

There you go - we have some great things we can work with. First, your mindset - a resilient, zen like status, where any attacks of him just roll off like water on a duck's back. Second, a way to make your status clear and show him where he oversteps boundaries. Great work. Let’s work out those two in more detail...

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#5 Alistair

<Elvis Presley - A little less conversation>

What would you tell your 15 year old self?

To never give up. To go out and just do it. I am almost 70 now, so my teenage years were different from the young people today. When I was young, I took over the family business, but the economy turned on all of us and we went into liquidation. The business had been with us for 3 generations and took it on and had just started my own family. I felt personally responsible for the loss, was devastated and suffered from depression.

But there was no way I could give up. Somehow, an idea came to me, so I went and got myself a Tshirt printed. It read “Work wanted” and I put it on and walked up and down the main road. What can I say, within 24 hours I had a job that got me and my family over the next years. I had to think on my feet, and that is something that I still do today.

Never give up. Just go out and do it. If it is crap, people will forget, but if it works - then you win!

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#3 Martina

>Anderson .Paak - The Bird<

Birds of a feather…

When a blackbird meets another blackbird - they just hang out together for a while. Some mutual worm digging, some “rustle-leaves-tango”. There is no “What do you do?” or “Here is my business card, and please call me prof dr blackbird.”

They know they are both blackbirds...they do what blackbirds do. Sometimes a lot, sometimes a little. Sometimes it’s stormy, sometimes a light breeze. They simply enjoy each others company.

When they both go for the same breakfast worm, there may be some screeching and a few ruffled feathers, yet the incident is over and forgotten as quickly as it began. No silent treatment. No shitty gossip about the other blackbird. No smalltalk about the weather. No changing their social media status to “It’s complicated”. No stories from the past. No plans about the future. Only the here and now, watching the day unfold, doing their thing.

Alone. Together. Birds of a feather.

I appreciate and embrace the ability of us humans to make plans, to have memories, to question and judge things. If I had my way though, it would take up only 20% of our time and that we spend 80% of our time like the blackbirds.

Being us. Doing our thing.
Tweet. Chirp. Love. Ruffle feathers. Eat.

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